To all you wonderful mothers out there, have a great and decadent day. Make sure there’s lots of chocolate in it.
And to everyone who has a mother: if you can, call or visit your mother today, and while you’re talking to her, don’t just talk about the stuff you need to do or the stuff you want to buy or the stuff she needs to get at the store or about stuff at all. Ask your mom what her biggest dream is, what she would love to do given all the time and money in the world, what she thought she’d do when she was young and never did, what she wanted to be when she grew up and whether she achieved that or not and what she thinks now of those old dreams. Ask her what scares her and whether it’s the same thing that scared her when she was younger or if it’s changed. Ask her what makes her happiest in life and what makes her sad to the bone. Ask her–
Well, you get the idea. I didn’t ask my mom questions like that. We mostly just rushed through lists of what we had to do and what we were cooking and what was on the calendar and what the kids had said or done.
We did talk more about her feelings when she was dying, but she was dying, so everything was colored by that. Before then, I was too busy being the center of my own universe to stop and think that maybe this woman had an internal life of her own. I would love to know the answers to all those questions now. But it’s too late. I’ll never get them.
Please, if you can call or visit your mother today, think about how lucky you are. Even if she drives you crazy. And know that I’m very very jealous of you.